Lesson 13: Self Control And Relapse Prevention - Slide 10





Example: Reasons For Behaving Well
- I remain faithful to my partner, not because I feel I have to, but because I want to be the kind of person who doesn’t cheat
- I do it for myself
- Years pass and I find out my partner was cheating on me
- I feel devastated but I do not feel I wasted my fidelity
- All along I was being the kind of person I wanted to be
- If I enter another relationship, I can truthfully say I was always faithful to a person who ultimately cheated on me
- I couldn’t control my partner’s behavior, but I could control mine and I did!
- Do clear personal reasons for our behavior help us cope when unexpected things happen? What are your answers ?
Notes:
Pg. 91, ”Bad for Us, The Lure of Self-Harm,” John Portmann, Beacon Press, Boston, 2004.